dating in NYC
So I’m officially single. It’s really sad, I thought we’d be together forever.
So far my only knowledge of the dating scene in this city has been from Sex and the City, and quite frankly, I hope reality is somewhat different.
One week ago I was sitting at DTUT writing a paper for school, when I accidentally locked eyes with a young man. He appeared to have just gotten there, since he had no drink in his hand. He came over and started a shy conversation, asked for my phone number, and then promptly left without purchasing anything. He never called. Is he collecting numbers? I really don’t get it.
For all of you who are single in New York, I have a question: does the large pool of highly eligible bachelors and bachelorettes detract you from commiting? Does the endless variety and possibilities of love make people less prone to settlng in a monogamous relationship?
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Josh posted about this back on the 11th, referencing this Times article. The long and short of it… yes. We have scientific proof that NYers are more picky daters than other places. With an infinite number of choices it seems that we develop an even higher number of criteria to determine who is acceptable.
It sounds like he may have been a PUA using you as practice or a warm up. Look up The Game by Neil Strauss.
Yes, sometimes, looking outside what has to be first found inside can be difficult and frustating.
Louis,
I agree. I was hoping to never be in the NYC dating scene. Oh well, I promise not to be a judgy gold-digger.
The bar scene in NYC is the worst! You get the generic bar girls, with too much makeup and a bad attitude, and the generic bar guys, with overly gelled hair and a striped, untucked button-down shirt. No variety at all! The guys are pricks, and the girls are generally bitches.
Be aware of the guys in a crowded bar who will grab your boobs as they pass. Girls I know say that is a growing issue.
I have no clue what the dating scene is like, I need to get out more and talk to more random people. The regular NYC attitude of talking to anyone (or anything with the homeless) still scares me, I’m probably considered shy.