High School Sex
Child Sex or children sex or sex by children or wrong, immature, experimental sex has always existed to some extent as far as I know. I was exposed to it when I was younger, kids making out in the hallways, some girls rumored to have not being virgins, this was elementary school – I.S. 73. Then, I went to high school, Bronx Science, and well the scandals were raunchier but we weren’t all that much older – 14-18. Lots of people were active, several people had come out, several people had not come out but openly accepted the wide realm of possibilities as far as their sexuality went. It was a time to grow and experience new things. Now, it’s not much different, but it’s just a little bit more in style, a little bit more exposed, and everyone is talking about it. New York Magazine has an article this week on my old high school’s rival, Stuyvesant. The article is about a group of kids known as the Cuddle Puddle.
The article is very long and details out the life of nothing more than a clique. This clique is just like any other clique – they hang out after school, eat together, but what’s different is their heteroflexuality. They are flexible, fluid, pansexual, and all these terms that are giving me a headache.
I do not know how I feel about young people having sex just now, but I do know that the article’s details made me very unnerved and caused some degree of concern. It was very freely that these very intelligent (Stuyvesant/Bronx Science/Brooklyn Tech are 3 of New York City’s best public high schools, you have to take a test similar to the SATs for admission) and very young kids talked about having encounters with their male & female friends.
It seems like these folks are without emotion when reading about it. It seems that feelings are hurt, but they aren’t shown. I have encountered some folks beyond their teens who have been seriously hurt in relationships that are like this, but isn’t it too early for these kids to be desensitized? I don’t know if it’s the fact that homosexuality is now very common and I don’t find anything wrong with the homosexuality aspect of it, I do find it interesting that many of the people involved claim that they are just doing things to turn the guys on or turn the girls on. Has it become that shallow? How are these folks going to grow up? What was worst was how they are raised. Most of these kids way below 18 are drinking, smoking, and hooking up in parentless homes after school. How the hell does that happen so easily?
I don’t know – it’s been freaking me out ever since I read it and the topic has been discussed on Dateline, NYTimes and other places – the topic of children’s sexuality and its effects later on in life. But if these same kids grow up to be scientists, lawyers, and politicians, and forces that shape societal progress, does it really matter that they’ll end up having really screwy social lives?
This is so messed up. There is no way to know how these children will turn out because they are the first generation to be desensitized and to experiment so young. I don’t see anything good of it and all that will happen is more unstable relationships, more divorces, and more broken families, and another cycle as the next generation has no good example to follow.
It’s why when I think about it, I would want to raise kids in the suburbs and send them to a private school and/or enroll them in so many activities there is no time for sex.
Wynne (Vancouver Metroblogging)
Wyn –
I think the point of no return has been crossed. You will not be able to protect your children from sex in private school. Sex, like violence, and other things is a daily part of life now. I was exposed to just as much sex while growing up, but it was shunned and hidden and now it’s not really making excuses. It’s all about choosing what you want and having more freedom.
I worry about raising my children too, but besides the values you instill in them, there’s nothing you can do to protect them from the world around them. Suburbs are actually where most of these children live. Suburbs are where weed, alcohol, and sex take prevalence because there is a lack of other activities to partake in.
There’s pretty much no stopping the phenomenon. It just is a bit worrisome as you say.